“shoulding” all over yourself

I used to know a woman who hated the word “should.” Anytime someone would use the phrase, “I should,” she’d got berserk. She called this practice “shoulding all over yourself.”

We all do it: “I should be more productive. I should be making more money. I should have it all figured out by now.”

Who says? Who or what says we should be or do anything? By using the word “should” in reference to our creative work and our lives, we’re surrendering our agency.

Our goals need to be our own. It’s up to all of us as individuals to define the metrics with which we measure our success.

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